Untangling Why You Can’t Let it Go
You know that moment when you get frustrated with someone or something and the criticism starts pouring out and complaints play in a loop? Whatever happened is finished, but your mind is not.
Someone made a mistake. Something was not done the way you would have done it. A conversation, a decision, or a behavior keeps replaying in your head.
Even if the other person has moved on, you are still carrying that frustration, anger or disappointment.
What happens when the inner critic turns outward? Why we can get hooked on what other people should be doing differently. The exciting news is that these moments can become a doorway into understanding ourselves more clearly. You’ll learn three important questions to ask yourself the next time criticism starts taking up more space than it needs to.
In this episode, we explore:
Why the critic turns outward, and why being right is not always as important as we think.
How criticism can point toward the values we are trying to protect.
The difference between values and rules, and why “shoulds” can create so much friction.
What outward criticism can reveal about fear, reputation, belonging, and control.
A mindfulness roadmap for noticing the body, emotions, thoughts, and actions behind the reaction.
How curiosity creates more choice, clarity, and self-awareness
LISTEN
Do you have something you’d like untangled?
If there’s something your mind keeps returning to, you’re welcome to share—in the comments! We will do our best to include it.
Warmly,
